Communication challenges

Prostate cancer adds to them

Communication between women and men is challenging enough.

But it can be even more difficult when you add the stress, depression, and treatment side effects that often follow a diagnosis of prostate cancer.

Communication styles vary

Part of the problem is that women and men have very different styles of conversing.

The differences between the sexes are fascinating and understanding them may help change the way you view your relationship and the way you talk to your partner.

Learn more by reading why women and men speak a different language.

What do men hear?

Did you know that what a woman says is not necessarily what a man hears?

Our article about what men hear when women talk provides some terrific insights that may help you overcome some of the most common obstacles between couples with prostate cancer.

Anger over prostate cancer

Clinical psychologist and author, Dr. Sue Johnson, writes that when couples fight, they are actually expressing cries of protest about the emotional disconnection they feel within their relationship. 

This disconnection is common when couples are struggling with problems related to changes in sex after prostate cancer.

Read what your anger may be telling you to understand what your strong emotions may stem from and how couples with prostate cancer can work to improve their relationships.

When trying to express their needs, many couples coping with prostate cancer get caught in the “blame game.”  Read why the blame game is always a losing proposition.

Speak up

Another key to effective communication is being able to ask for what you need in a way that compels your partner to honor your request (i.e., without either of you getting angry).

We have two articles that can help:

Feeling silenced?

If your partner has shut down, or completely shut you out, our article about why men may avoid conversation altogether may help relieve some of your frustration and anxiety.

Editor's note: These articles are not a substitute for individual and professional counseling. Nor do they represent every man and woman. Their purpose is to create awareness and start a discussion, which are often the first steps to change.


Gray J. Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus. Harper Collins:New York, NY; 1992.

Johnson S. Hold Me Tight. Little, Brown & Company: New York, NY;2008.

Tannen D. You Just Don't Understand! Harper Collins:New York,NY;1990.

Always consult a medical professional.