Sex after prostate cancer can be deeply satisfying, but it may be different than it was before.
If your loved one didn’t have any erection problems before treatment, he was probably able to become aroused without any touching or direct stimulation.
That may change after treatment.
Sexual recovery takes time
Despite what doctors may tell you, one study showed that it can take up to 4 years for men to see the most improvement in their sexual function after surgery for prostate cancer (we can vouch for that from personal experience).
Much depends on:
Following a nerve-sparing radical prostatectomy, recovery from impotence generally happens slowly over time. A man will have dry orgasms (some call it dry sex) because the prostate and seminal vesicles have been removed.
Following radiation therapy, if impotence is a problem, it typically develops over time.
Don’t give up
Experts say that you should not stop having sex, even if your man is not be able to get or maintain a “stuffable erection” (a lousy term, we know) for sexual intercourse.
It may help to approach sex after prostate cancer treatment:
Try not to get discouraged if you don’t see the results you want right away. There are many ways to satisfy your partner other than intercourse.
It may also encourage you to know that a man does not need an erection to have an orgasm.
Options to help improve erectile dysfunction
If one of these options does not work, you can ask your doctor about trying another.
Discuss information from this website with a medical professional
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American Cancer Society. Effects of cancer treatment on male sexuality. http://www.cancer.org. Accessed September 1, 2009.
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