Like you, your man may be feeling
a mix of different emotions

He may be afraid of dying. He may be afraid that whatever treatment he chooses will affect his ability to have sex. He may be worried about becoming incontinent. He may also be worried about you.

He is probably asking the same questions you are, but from his perspective.

Every man reacts differently

Some men will adopt a “take charge” attitude toward their prostate cancer, while others will want to run and hide. Some men will have a positive outlook and others will be more negative. Even the most upbeat and positive men may have days when they feel frightened and uncertain.

It's common for men to feel depressed after their diagnosis. This article about depression will help you know the warning signs and symptoms of clinical depression.

Men and feelings

Some men will want to talk about their feelings and some will not. If this is the case with your loved one, try to be patient. Forcing him to talk about his feelings when he’s not ready may just add more stress. He also may not be ready to talk about your feelings. This doesn’t mean you have to cope alone. Read about support for you and him.

What may work is to ask your loved one how you can best help him. You can also ask if he wants to talk about what he is feeling. If he does not, try to honor and respect him. You can let him know that you will be there for him if he does want to talk later. We also suggest you visit our section on communication.

Updated 10/09

Always discuss everything you read on this web site with a qualified medical professional.



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