Anxiety and prostate cancer often
Many of us who suffer from stress and anxiety have a constant chatter of inner voices berating us, telling us that “we’re no good,” that “we’ll never succeed,” or worse, that “we’ll always feel anxious.”
This anxious talk is so ingrained that most of us aren’t even aware of it.
As wives or partners coping with our loved one’s prostate cancer, our anxious talk may frighten us further with thoughts like: “What happens if the treatment isn’t a success?”, “What if the cancer has already spread?”, or “What if his cancer returns?” Unfortunately, the more lies our anxious talk tells us, the more anxious we may feel.
It is nearly impossible to completely stop our anxious talk from happening. But we can learn to turn down the volume.
First you need to hear it
The best time to listen to your anxious talk is when you are feeling anxious or agitated. Simply sit or lie down in a quiet room and just listen to your thoughts. You’ll know you’re hearing your anxious talk when your thoughts are littered with words like “always,” “never,” “can’t,” or “should.” After persistent practice you’ll be absolutely astounded at what you’ll hear! It’s also very helpful to write down the messages your anxious talk feeds you, as it will help you later on when you are ready to dispel the lies and start “talking back.”
Once you have mastered the art of listening to your anxious talk, you can practice turning down the volume. When you feel anxious or agitated, close your eyes, and imagine that you are turning the volume of the voices down, just as if you are turning down the volume on a radio. When your anxious talk gets louder again (as it invariably will), you can simply turn the volume down again.
A tool that's always available
By using this simple imagery exercise, you may be able to change the way you feel – even if only for a few minutes at a time. It also helps to remind yourself (whether you are experiencing anxiety or not) that you can turn down the volume on your anxious talk whenever you choose to.
When we lower the volume on our anxious talk, we’re better able to "hear" the positive thoughts we can tell ourselves to help us feel better.
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